A Journey Worth Taking: Nuts for the Monkey or Not

A Journey Worth Taking: Nuts for the Monkey or Not: Is control an illusion? It is indeed. Yet how many of us feel like our actions will effect outcomes? The idea that worries, fears, supersti...

Nuts for the Monkey or Not

Is control an illusion? It is indeed. Yet how many of us feel like our actions will effect outcomes? The idea that worries, fears, superstitions, or actions will determine a desired outcome is so common. The very thing we need to let go of is the very thing we strive to hold on tight to. Control really is an illusion.

It reminds me of the example of the monkey that is exposed to a transparent box with a small slit opening the size of his hand. Inside of the box are nuts; he sees the nuts and puts his hands in to get the nuts. However because the opening is only the size of his open hand it gets stuck when he grabs the nuts and tries to get them. He keeps trying and trying not realizing that now the what he wants is controlling him. His hand is stuck and he gets frustrated. If only he would let go of the nuts, he would get his hand out.

 

So much of control is tied into overeating. It becomes about what we want or what we think we want. Yet, letting go is the only thing we really have control of. Its' common to eat when we are stressed. So my question is, are we trying to combat the thing that is making us stressed or the feeling of stress itself. The monkey wanted the nuts, but once he got them, he wanted to be free. For example, let's say I want a positive outcome on a job interview I went to. The result of getting the job is truly unknown which causes stress. Does my getting the job mean for sure I will be happy at the job or will it mean that stressful feeling of the unknown will go away.

We think we know that a particular outcome will be beneficial, but how do we truly know for sure? We don't, but we try hard to control the outcome. The only thing we have control of is or our actions of anything that is put in front of us. So many things determine what is put in front of us. Control interferes with what is supposed to happen. That monkey had the nuts but couldn't eat them so he was unhappy. He was in control of his hand going into the box, yes, but his control ended there. He needed to figure out that letting go of the nuts would set him free. When we overeat what nuts are making us unhappy?

 

Take heed to what the universe has in store for us. Trust that if what we desire doesn't come to fruition it is probably for a good reason; a reason which we will probably never know. Be open to alternative outcomes. We may not always be happy with a certain outcome but we are not in charge.

A Journey Worth Taking: Ghrelin Not Welcome Here

A Journey Worth Taking: Ghrelin Not Welcome Here: Five more pounds gone! I am really loving this. Someone asked me what I am eating so I will give a sample of what my daily menu consists of...

Ghrelin Not Welcome Here

Five more pounds gone! I am really loving this. Someone asked me what I am eating so I will give a sample of what my daily menu consists of. It's under 1000 calories a day, 4ozs. of protein and some vegetables per meal. No carbs just yet, three meals a day, no snacks unless I go long periods between meals.  

 

Breakfast is either one Greek yogurt or a hard boiled egg and an ounce of cheese. On weekends I sometimes make a one-egg omelet with an ounce of cheese.

 

Lunch is some kind of meat dish I make usually a chicken dish because it's easy to take to work. More times than not I don't eat a vegetable for lunch unless its incorporated into the dish.

 

Dinner is again either chicken, fish, beef or turkey. I usually make a casserole type dish that incorporates vegetables into it. 

 

That's it. It's actually very satisfying. Part of the reason for that is of course the teeny tiny stomach I now have, but the other part is due to the fact that the hormone Ghrelin which is a hunger hormone was produced in the part of stomach that was removed. Unfortunately, that hormone could possibly return after about a year and a half. So in a year I will be walking around with a big sign that has the word Ghrelin in a red circle with line going through it to ward off it's return. Not everyone feels the effects of the loss of the hormone; I was lucky. Some people still feel hungry. The research is not conclusive on how it works yet. The human body is amazing.

 

I love that food is easy and it takes me 10 minutes to eat. I love not being a slave to food anymore. I have to wait 30 minutes after each meal before I drink anything and I have to get down more than 64 ounces of water per day. I am always drinking. I am to get 50-64 grams of protein in each day. It's that simple.

 

This week I met some really cool people at a support group I went to. This group goes on trips together and has a lot of fun. It's exciting to see how things are unfolding in my life. It's not all easy and positive, but it is different, for sure. I have not for one moment, regretted my decision. I hope anyone thinking about surgery, sees this and heeds the message. Like anything else in life, it takes work, adaptability, and an open mind.

 

The challenge I have is now that I don't have that dark cloud consuming me constantly, what do I do with that energy that is now open. How do I improve the rest of my life and make it what I want it to be. It's been a long time since I thought about all that. It's slowly starting to build. I am trying to broaden my horizons.

A Journey Worth Taking: Catfish...

A Journey Worth Taking: Catfish...: It's been a bit of a wild and wooly week; I'll call it a double catfish week. I belong to a small Facebook group for people who had...

Catfish...

It's been a bit of a wild and wooly week; I'll call it a double catfish week. I belong to a small Facebook group for people who had the same weight loss surgery as me in the same month. It's a very supportive and active group and it's really been great.

 

About two weeks ago one of the members informed the group that another member developed complications and has a pulmonary embolism and needs our prayers. She was in an induced coma and is being watched carefully. It was very sad, she is a young woman who had lost her young daughter a few years back to Leukemia. Most of the members shuttered to think that could be anyone of us right now. Again sending home the thought of how lucky I have been.

 

Sadly, on Wednesday, we got word she died from a stroke. It hit me like a ton of bricks; how awful for her family. It was just horrible to think, here is someone trying to better herself and now just lost everything. Some of the members discussed sending flowers, etc. and were asking where to send it. We were told the family doesn't want anything but donations for Leukemia research. Understandable.

 

And then it all unraveled. Thursday night at about 2:00 AM I don't know what woke me up and made me check Facebook but I did. At around Midnight the group's administrators let us know that the death of this young woman was a complete scam. Both women's Facebook pages were now gone after the informant was confronted. It is surmised that it was to bilk people out of money or they or she has a vendetta against a surgeon or weight loss surgery in general or even overweight people. The truth of why will never really be known, but oh my God. What a twisted and cruel thing to do. To have the audacity to create this whole scenario with pictures and friends - a whole life really is just beyond belief. I can't fathom doing such a thing so I would have never have even thought twice that this would be untrue. Just unbelievable how desperate people are and would try to rattle a small group like that.  As a group, the anger was palpable. It took a few days, but everyone finally moved past the betrayal. I am relived it didn't advance to anyone sending money.

 

It moves my thoughts to trust in this electronic age. I mentioned double catfish week and there was a situation that happened in a dating situation. Online dating can be a minefield and I am not crazy about it, but I do it because like anything else, it can be successful. I have friends who recently married meeting online. Luckily, I picked up some miss matched items and trusted my newly chopped up gut that something didn't feel right about this. I don't really know for sure, and perhaps my radar was overly heightened due to the other situation earlier in the week, but I am going with my instincts on this one.

 

I hate to sound preachy, but my point with all this is how careful we all must be with so much sharing in cyberworld these days. It's so easy for any one's imagination to run wild and create whole lives for themselves that are completely fabricated. It's pretty mind blowing, actually, and it happens all the time. I hate the world its become in terms of things like this because how sad it is that we all have to keep one eye keen and our instincts polished to perfection at all times. How do you sift out the truth from the sheer BS?? It's become one of the many situations that require careful navigation through the electronic age. Like I always say, I miss the 70's.

 

For those who don't know "catfish" is a slang term used to describe one's misrepresentation of themselves in an online, usually, social media situation for any number of reasons such as mental pathology or monetary gain.

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